Hi,
Welcome to the forum!
I consider wear and tear to be a badge of honor. My firearm is a tool. Tools are meant to be used. I understand we want to keep our kit looking great, but it's better to wear it out than let it rot (i.e. safe queen).
I guess there are a couple of things you can do to minimize wear. While my hybrid holsters are a little more comfortable, I tend to carry kydex for the rigidity. I think the soft leather lets the holster crush the handgun more when drawing. The full kydex less so. All of my carry kydex gets muzzle pads and DCC clips for comfort and stability. A nice muzzle pad will not only improve comfort, it will also let your gun print less, holding the grip closer to your body.
I've never used it but there are also holster lube products that are supposed to allow easier/faster draw and cut down on wear.
It's great to have you join us. There are a bunch of good eggs here.
Thank you for your indulgence,
BassCliff