Scenario: You find yourself in a critical self-defense situation where you MIGHT need to use deadly force... Is there anything you can do to avoid that extreme response? Jeff recommends taking steps to (1) prevent escalating the situation and, if possible (2) de-escalate it. Your verbal communication should be clear and concise.
Try to understand the "problem," the other person's concern. If you understand, you're less likely to do something that will set off the person and escalate the situation. This may help calm them down and encourage them to also work to de-escalate. Try to seek a resolution: How can we work something out so we both walk away intact? It helps to adopt nonviolent postures, so you're not threatening the other person BUT your hands are positioned to quickly protect yourself (that is, protect your head). You can also use hand gestures to signal your desire for de-escalation. Most importantly, you have to stay calm; if YOU get agitated and lose your cool, your opponent will respond, and things can escalate quickly.
Try to understand the "problem," the other person's concern. If you understand, you're less likely to do something that will set off the person and escalate the situation. This may help calm them down and encourage them to also work to de-escalate. Try to seek a resolution: How can we work something out so we both walk away intact? It helps to adopt nonviolent postures, so you're not threatening the other person BUT your hands are positioned to quickly protect yourself (that is, protect your head). You can also use hand gestures to signal your desire for de-escalation. Most importantly, you have to stay calm; if YOU get agitated and lose your cool, your opponent will respond, and things can escalate quickly.