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powerboatr said:
day 8 of mom
ER 3 times for the lower tract issues, doctors gave her a suite of anti biotics, plus panic attack calming chews..i think those are what we give dogs before travel.. i wanted them to give her zanax or valium or something.

looking for ideas, even US moving to florida and changing phone numbers, our old house we had built is for sale :love:
all doctors tell her she is self inducing panic attacks, which results in irritable bowel
irritable stomach
does feel good enough to go out to eat breakfast...but somehow cant stop to buy groceries... from a store she has to pass on way home, and drove right by place to get her meds.
somehow did not stop to get them so we had to go out late to get them
refuses to make food at home as she does not feel good enough yad yada yada

wont let us buy her food, except whataburger.. yep those will get the train running
we dont get sleep because i wake up every hour to look at my phone
tried turning it off...but then in morning i missed 10 calls or texts and omg deaths door voice mails
its like she does it ON PURPOSE and i refuse to stay over there , the cats smell and i dont like cats that much
she can come over, but wont

i had planned to go do some target practice friday... she felt fine,
as soon as i flucked up and said we are going out for a bit she got sick,
.

anyway its raining today so i get to work on upstairs trim boards, get room finished
sunny tomorrow and i am ready for range time in bad way

yall have a great weekend
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powerboatr said:
spent 2 hrs at her hormone doctor this morning
she promised by weds her guts and mind should be right
i hope so
i got under her skin a bit with trying to let her know change is good and the cheese got moved ADAPT
we stopped to get gas, near a grocery and she didnt want to go in
so i stopped at the door and told her get out i will go park
she spent 90 on food
i guess tough love got her attention
i sure hope so
she lives next door, so i think she is abusing my once kind heart
i have the caring of a gold fish at times and frankly exhausted
thanks for the prayers folks
it does help
now its raining dogs and chickens and i am get can the trim done
flashlights and air hose
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I am so sorry you are going through this with your mom. I totally get it. My once very strong, independent mom is now in a memory care home in Florida, eighteen hundred miles away. I am so thankful that my sister lives a couple of miles away from that home. It is very hard on all of us, but on my sister especially. At first mom would forget where she was. She still sometimes thinks she is in an Air BNB. But she is so afraid to leave her room, the staff have to go and bring her to the dining room at meal time. She will sleep until noon if my sister doesn't go over to get her up (Wednesdays and Sundays), get her showered, etc. It's getting a little better with time, but it hurts me more than anyone will ever know, how much she has changed.

I didn't say all that to make it about me. When I was reading your post I put myself in your place, and I can only imagine how it's making you feel. Please just know that you have friends here. Many of us are dealing with elderly parents whose lives are changing at a time in their lives when change is hardest. I'm here for you.
 
Hi,

powerboatr said:
spent 2 hrs at her hormone doctor this morning
she promised by weds her guts and mind should be right
i hope so
i got under her skin a bit with trying to let her know change is good and the cheese got moved ADAPT
we stopped to get gas, near a grocery and she didnt want to go in
so i stopped at the door and told her get out i will go park
she spent 90 on food
i guess tough love got her attention
i sure hope so
she lives next door, so i think she is abusing my once kind heart
i have the caring of a gold fish at times and frankly exhausted
thanks for the prayers folks
it does help
now its raining dogs and chickens and i am get can the trim done
flashlights and air hose
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We tried to talk Mom into moving up here, near to us (the kids), the grandkids, and the great grandkids. But she did not want to leave her little home town. Her mental state does not tolerate too much change. We have to take it in increments. I'm just glad she's not alone in a run down house. Such is life.


Thank you for your indulgence,

BassCliff
 
BassCliff said:
Hi,



We tried to talk Mom into moving up here, near to us (the kids), the grandkids, and the great grandkids. But she did not want to leave her little home town. Her mental state does not tolerate too much change. We have to take it in increments. I'm just glad she's not alone in a run down house. Such is life.


Thank you for your indulgence,

BassCliff
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yep its a tough pill
she is 83, i am trying to get her to take one of her friends on a short trip to clear her mind
she does not like being alone
and the house is quiet.

i am not the nurturer of the kids,

i tend to be too pragmatic, and tend to say what i am thinking now vice letting it stay bottled up

i did manage to get all but one piece of trim up..
have to run to lowes.
 
powerboatr said:
day 8 of mom
ER 3 times for the lower tract issues, doctors gave her a suite of anti biotics, plus panic attack calming chews..i think those are what we give dogs before travel.. i wanted them to give her zanax or valium or something.

looking for ideas, even US moving to florida and changing phone numbers, our old house we had built is for sale :love:
all doctors tell her she is self inducing panic attacks, which results in irritable bowel
irritable stomach
does feel good enough to go out to eat breakfast...but somehow cant stop to buy groceries... from a store she has to pass on way home, and drove right by place to get her meds.
somehow did not stop to get them so we had to go out late to get them
refuses to make food at home as she does not feel good enough yad yada yada

wont let us buy her food, except whataburger.. yep those will get the train running
we dont get sleep because i wake up every hour to look at my phone
tried turning it off...but then in morning i missed 10 calls or texts and omg deaths door voice mails
its like she does it ON PURPOSE and i refuse to stay over there , the cats smell and i dont like cats that much
she can come over, but wont

i had planned to go do some target practice friday... she felt fine,
as soon as i flucked up and said we are going out for a bit she got sick,
.

anyway its raining today so i get to work on upstairs trim boards, get room finished
sunny tomorrow and i am ready for range time in bad way

yall have a great weekend
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It's difficult, draining and frustrating when we as adult children become the caregivers. I know from personal experience. My Mom suffered a left sided stroke 15 years ago, I was given 12 more years with her and then 3 years ago she passed away from cancer. Take each day as it comes, learn to temper yourself as you get to know this new normal. Do your best to keep in mind she may not be able to help some behaviors and may also be afraid of the changes occurring in her life. She may not even fully understand what's happening. My prayers go out to you.
 
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Guy that I used to sell cars with stopped by the house. Guess i'm going to get a call from the owner that I worked for last year. They have not had a profitable month since I left. He wants to talk to me. I didn't say anything but there is no chance that I will work for them again--no chance! But if called it will give me the opportunity to say what's on my mind and close the door on him. I'm getting too old to deal with morons in the car business anymore--both owners and customers.
 
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Guy that I used to sell cars with stopped by the house. Guess i'm going to get a call from the owner that I worked for last year. They have not had a profitable month since I left. He wants to talk to me. I didn't say anything but there is no chance that I will work for them again--no chance! But if called it will give me the opportunity to say what's on my mind and close the door on him. I'm getting too old to deal with morons in the car business anymore--both owners and customers.
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I've purchased more cars in the 51 years than I care to remember. Have had some honest salespeople as well as the other kind. It took some time to learn new car sale "tactics" that the unscrupulous ones used. The sales-uneducated youth are prime prey. With my first new vehicle purchase, just being credit-worthy enough to make installments was a victory for me. My pops hated to deal with salespeople. I did the negotiating for him, otherwise he'd blow a fuse.
 
Saint Joseph said:
It's difficult, draining and frustrating when we as adult children become the caregivers. I know from personal experience. My Mom suffered a left sided stroke 15 years ago, I was given 12 more years with her and then 3 years ago she passed away from cancer. Take each day as it comes, learn to temper yourself as you get to know this new normal. Do your best to keep in mind she may not be able to help some behaviors and may also be afraid of the changes occurring in her life. She may not even fully understand what's happening. My prayers go out to you.
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yes sir its very draining and frustrating
and she and i do not always see the road in the same light,
my other 3 siblings are 2 no talkie to mom evil women and the 3rd works 6 days a week in insurance claims adjusting

a few minutes ago she was out walking to mailbox... THATS HUGE.. even sent me a thank you text
my cameras sent me an alert of a non recognized person at the mailbox. :love:
 
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