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Resting up before sleep. Settling down so I can sleep might be more like it.
I’m 750 miles from home in VA, where I’ve been helping clear out a buddy’s place for the past week.

He died in early July. Never married or had kids. His girlfriend is now handling things after some rough speed bumps (like a challenge to the will by family who didn’t bother to come see him).

He was a Mopar nut, with seven cars and a garage/shop to match. We spent the past week digging things out, getting word out through local Mopar guys, and selling most of the bigger stuff and giving away smaller stuff.

Today, we tackled his 68 Roadrunner which was his daily driver until two years ago, when he stripped it down to restore. And I mean stripped it down. He got it tore down, when the cancer he had beat ten years prior came back.

The new owner got here at noon, and we got the car back on the rear axle, dolly wheels on the front, and all the body panels on except the drivers side door (never found it, but found two passenger side!). We emptied out the shop, two attics, and part of a shipping container of everything from the engine and transmission, to original and replacement body panels, to nuts and bolts.
We got it trailered up, then filled that truck and another pickup with parts by 6:00.
We only lost one piece of glass: The $1500 rear window. There was a spare.

I’m beat. That capped off the week.

My advice to everyone from this experience:
Everybody says “Make a will”. That’s true, but just making one is not enough. Don’t just make a simple one and be done. Be specific, very specific. Don’t simply say _______ will be the executor and leave them to handle it all. If you want specific things to go to specific people, say so! It might not hurt to say if someone in particular should NOT get something in particular.

If you want the “leftovers” like clothing and old furniture to go to a certain place/charity, say so! Make sure they will accept them, too.
Make sure your executor wants the job, also.

I don’t want to blame my buddy for the problems he left her, because when the cancer came back he made a simple will with the plan of revising it, then things went quickly.

Also it would be a big help to label things. I’m guilty of this because I’ve thought about how I need to do it and put it off. I plan to correct that when I get home. That, and some other things.

I’ve been involved in things like this before, but haven’t seen so many things that so little extra planning could’ve helped with.
 
BarryinIN said:
Resting up before sleep. Settling down so I can sleep might be more like it.
I’m 750 miles from home in VA, where I’ve been helping clear out a buddy’s place for the past week.

He died in early July. Never married or had kids. His girlfriend is now handling things after some rough speed bumps (like a challenge to the will by family who didn’t bother to come see him).

He was a Mopar nut, with seven cars and a garage/shop to match. We spent the past week digging things out, getting word out through local Mopar guys, and selling most of the bigger stuff and giving away smaller stuff.

Today, we tackled his 68 Roadrunner which was his daily driver until two years ago, when he stripped it down to restore. And I mean stripped it down. He got it tore down, when the cancer he had beat ten years prior came back.

The new owner got here at noon, and we got the car back on the rear axle, dolly wheels on the front, and all the body panels on except the drivers side door (never found it, but found two passenger side!). We emptied out the shop, two attics, and part of a shipping container of everything from the engine and transmission, to original and replacement body panels, to nuts and bolts.
We got it trailered up, then filled that truck and another pickup with parts by 6:00.
We only lost one piece of glass: The $1500 rear window. There was a spare.

I’m beat. That capped off the week.

My advice to everyone from this experience:
Everybody says “Make a will”. That’s true, but just making one is not enough. Don’t just make a simple one and be done. Be specific, very specific. Don’t simply say _______ will be the executor and leave them to handle it all. If you want specific things to go to specific people, say so! It might not hurt to say if someone in particular should NOT get something in particular.

If you want the “leftovers” like clothing and old furniture to go to a certain place/charity, say so! Make sure they will accept them, too.
Make sure your executor wants the job, also.

I don’t want to blame my buddy for the problems he left her, because when the cancer came back he made a simple will with the plan of revising it, then things went quickly.

Also it would be a big help to label things. I’m guilty of this because I’ve thought about how I need to do it and put it off. I plan to correct that when I get home. That, and some other things.

I’ve been involved in things like this before, but haven’t seen so many things that so little extra planning could’ve helped with.
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Great job you did and even better advice. Let me add some more. WRITE IT DOWN and I mean everything. I have a spiral notebook which I keep adding to (as memory reminds me). Contains insurance policies including how they are paid (draft, by check, paid up), how you want your funeral done and where, names and numbers of who to contact in case, what bills (utilities) and also how paid (mine are all on auto draft to save my son from the headache), and well, guess you see where I'm going with this.
 
Roughing in a part for another machine
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Got a few minutes before the dr appt for the follow-up the heading south to see the kids and fix what the apartment peeps haven't. Well except for the dishwasher as it need a new 1. I'll supply my daughter and her roomies with essentials to fix or check issues (screwdriver, ladder, volt meter, bug spray, etc) abd show how to safely check volts.
 
BarryinIN said:
Resting up before sleep. Settling down so I can sleep might be more like it.
I’m 750 miles from home in VA, where I’ve been helping clear out a buddy’s place for the past week.

He died in early July. Never married or had kids. His girlfriend is now handling things after some rough speed bumps (like a challenge to the will by family who didn’t bother to come see him).

He was a Mopar nut, with seven cars and a garage/shop to match. We spent the past week digging things out, getting word out through local Mopar guys, and selling most of the bigger stuff and giving away smaller stuff.

Today, we tackled his 68 Roadrunner which was his daily driver until two years ago, when he stripped it down to restore. And I mean stripped it down. He got it tore down, when the cancer he had beat ten years prior came back.

The new owner got here at noon, and we got the car back on the rear axle, dolly wheels on the front, and all the body panels on except the drivers side door (never found it, but found two passenger side!). We emptied out the shop, two attics, and part of a shipping container of everything from the engine and transmission, to original and replacement body panels, to nuts and bolts.
We got it trailered up, then filled that truck and another pickup with parts by 6:00.
We only lost one piece of glass: The $1500 rear window. There was a spare.

I’m beat. That capped off the week.

My advice to everyone from this experience:
Everybody says “Make a will”. That’s true, but just making one is not enough. Don’t just make a simple one and be done. Be specific, very specific. Don’t simply say _______ will be the executor and leave them to handle it all. If you want specific things to go to specific people, say so! It might not hurt to say if someone in particular should NOT get something in particular.

If you want the “leftovers” like clothing and old furniture to go to a certain place/charity, say so! Make sure they will accept them, too.
Make sure your executor wants the job, also.

I don’t want to blame my buddy for the problems he left her, because when the cancer came back he made a simple will with the plan of revising it, then things went quickly.

Also it would be a big help to label things. I’m guilty of this because I’ve thought about how I need to do it and put it off. I plan to correct that when I get home. That, and some other things.

I’ve been involved in things like this before, but haven’t seen so many things that so little extra planning could’ve helped with.
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Will
Power of attorney
Medical power of attorney
Trusts

Make things seemless as can be when you or loved one passes.

Simple things as getting Rx refills for someone once their significant other has passed would be a nightmare without a Med POA. ..
been there done that with my mom.
My FIL passed. MIL broke her writing hand. My wife needed the POA to sign forms in the hospital for her mom due to the broken hand. Stuff you dont think of.

Like others said.. spell it out.. but get the 4 basics done: will, trust, poa, med poa.
 
Man i be tired, picked up about a million limbs and sticks, my hammys are cryin murder. then drove 50 miles to pick up motorcycle parts, came home and put em on and guess what. still won't run. been a long hard day. been soaked all day AGAIN. I don't like winter but i am tired of me undies being stuck to my butt EVERY day. either way need to relax a bit.
 
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