I have a few years on you, and both my wife and I carry every day, even around the house. My wife always lets me sit with my back against the wall. Even before entering I observe the area, the entrance/exit, and on entering I scan the crowd. Over the years I have developed an attitude of not trusting people including some "friends", a couple cops.42 years in LE, 10 years as a PI, bodyguard, and firearms trainer. I have been armed every day of my adult life, 52 years and counting. All my family know the gunfighter seat is mine is restaurants and Mrs Greener and I can spot an officer or operator by the way they enter a room. It is a mindset that never leaves you. We prepare for the worst and hope for the best. With 25 rounds of 45 acp and an attitude on board.