Don’t Buy Your Spouse a Handgun

Written by Kit Perez
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Don’t Buy Your Spouse a Handgun

April 30th, 2019

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The number of females choosing to carry concealed continues to rise. From 2013 to 2016, the number of female concealed carry permit holders jumped 62 percent in Washington State—and that’s just one state. 

Many of those women, but certainly not all, are married to fellow gun owners. While we love our gun-loving husbands, especially when you’re excited to see us start carrying, we actually aren’t as big a fan of you surprising us with our first handgun to put on our hip—even if we appreciate the gesture.

Before you bought your everyday carry handgun, you probably wanted to test it out, and women are no different. We want to see how it feels in our hand—is it comfortable to hold? Being proficient with our handgun means we’ll be shooting it a lot; if we don’t like how it feels in our hand, we aren’t going to want to shoot it. 

I purchased a .380 handgun once about ten years ago, sight unseen, for the purpose of everyday carry. I read all the reviews, researched the model I wanted, and ordered it. When it came, I eagerly took it out and tested it—only to realize I hated it. It didn’t fit my hand and I didn’t like the recoil. As a result, I found myself not training with it…and not carrying it every day. That was an expensive lesson.

The same happens when you try to buy a handgun for someone else. If your wife doesn’t like how it feels or shoots, she isn’t going to want to train with it and become proficient. That means she’ll be carrying a gun she isn’t intimately familiar and comfortable with—and that’s an unsafe situation. Worst case scenario, she may not want to carry it at all, defeating the entire purpose. Buying her the handgun you think she’ll like doesn’t mean you’ll get her the handgun she needs.

That doesn’t mean you can’t still get points for Best Present Ever, however. Take your wife to a range where they allow you to try out different guns. Let her hold them, shoot them, and see what she thinks. Everyone is different; she may love the size and feel of a 911 in .380, and she may want to go with something bigger, like an XDM in .40SW or even a 1911 TRP .45ACP

The point is to let her choose her weapon. After all, she’ll be entrusting her life to it. This will be the gun she will train with, carry everywhere, and possibly even use to defend herself with. You want her to love it—not just for how it looks, but for how well it works for her personally. If you want to buy your wife a handgun, let her choose the one you buy.

Springfield Armory® recommends you seek qualified and competent training from a certified instructor prior to handling any firearm and be sure to read your owner’s manual. These articles are considered to be suggestions and not recommendations from Springfield Armory. The views and opinions expressed on this website are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of Springfield Armory.

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Kit Perez

Kit Perez

Kit Perez is a deception/intelligence analyst, writer, and homesteader. Basics of Resistance: The Practical Freedomista Book 1, her book co-written with Claire Wolfe, is available on Amazon, with Book 2 due out in Fall 2019. She lives in the mountains of western Montana, where she raises dairy goats and serves on her local volunteer Fire/EMS department.

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